A New Start: Part 3
“I will lose 50 lbs this year!” “I will be debt free this year!” “I will travel the world this year!”
All wonderful resolutions. But how many times have I said these words on January 1, completely pumped and high on life, and the next thing I know, it’s June 1st and I have actually gained more weight, added a couple more bills to the list, and my “traveling” consisted of a weekend getaway visiting family about an hour away. Obviously, I didn’t hit my goals, and there was no evidence I would reach them anytime soon.
What happened? Why did I not achieve my resolutions? Maybe I didn’t put a plan in place to reach all my goals. Maybe I didn’t practice self-control or I focused too much on material things. Maybe my priorities changed.
Or maybe I took my eyes off of what really matters.
It seems we tend to make resolutions that may or may not be attainable, but fail to acknowledge that regardless of what our goals are, we cannot do ANYTHING in this world without God’s help and guidance.
I have seen evidence of this in my life lately. I have to change my mindset in order to make my goals for this year a reality. “I know I’m tough.” “I can do this.” “I don’t need anyone’s help.” “I’ll show them.” These are words that are all too familiar. We are humans who are not perfect. We make mistakes, sin, lose control (more often than we’d like), have bad habits, and are selfish. But we have a wonderful, caring, forgiving, guiding, loving, and all-powerful God who sees all the bad we have in us, but also knows our potential.
Yes, change can be a slow process, but it can definitely be done. Whether our goals are physical, emotional, or psychological, it is important that we tackle them with God’s help.
Besides the obvious (personal Bible study and prayer), I have found a few of the following tips to be helpful when making resolutions a reality:
Make sure it benefits others as well. When I think about a certain goal that I have, I pause to think if that goal only benefits me or if it also benefits my family. Everything I do affects others around me, even if that goal/resolution is a personal goal. “I will be the healthiest version of me that I can be so I can enjoy a long lasting happy life with those who surround me, especially my husband and kids.”
Set short-term AND long-term goals. Short term goals keep you motivated for the big long-term ones. Be realistic in what you ARE or ARE NOT willing to do to accomplish that goal. But also, don’t be afraid to challenge yourself.
Give yourself little incentives for reaching your short-term goals and go big when you accomplish the long-term ones. Go ahead! You’ve earned it!
Take it a day at a time. Everyone has bad days. Forgive yourself when you didn’t get what you wanted done in time, didn’t follow through, or fail. Tomorrow is a new day. Get up, start fresh, and onward to your goal!
Take time for yourself to be silent. Five minutes of silence a day is enough time for you to allow God to speak to you. You will feel his encouragement or words of wisdom telling you how you can conquer that fear that is impeding you from fulfilling that resolution.
Make sure your goals are “I will” not “I want.” “I want’s” have room for just dreaming about your goal. Instead, make them a reality by the determination that “I will” instills in your mind.
Write your goal down on paper. Just thinking about it isn’t enough. There’s something powerful in writing it down on a piece of paper, a post-it note stuck somewhere you can always see it, or creating your own vision board and hanging it up by your front door so it’s at the forefront of everything you do and everywhere you go. Read them aloud several times a day, if needed, so it just naturally becomes a part of you.
In short, it’s 2019 and we have hundreds of opportunities to make sound realistic resolutions that benefit more than just ourselves. Choose wisely what you want to accomplish this year and how you can shine God’s light with others. These are the things that help build our character and ultimately, that is the only thing we are taking with us to Heaven. Make a difference in this world, inspire others, and be a blessing. Make life beautiful!
Krystal is a stay-at-home mom of 2 boys (ages 5 and 7), with 2 dogs and a loving husband. She has a background in Education, but is currently running a Beauty/Health & Wellness business from home while homeschooling her youngest in Pre-K.